Do you focus on what you CAN do?
When people find out I live with chronic illness they often exclaim: “But you do so much!”, and the truth is that yes, I do a lot, and yet I don’t run myself into the ground, killing myself to do it.
I can’t, I don’t have the energy or great health for that. So how do I do it?
Everyday I concentrate on what I CAN do.
There have been times in the past when I’ve got stuck concentrating on what I can’t do, and that serves nobody.
They say you find what you seek, and when I looked at all the things I can’t do, it was a long, frustrating and depressing list, leaving me in a state completely lacking self-compassion or forgiveness, and definitely keeping me stuck.
I quickly decided that isn’t how I want my life to be, and that I’m tired of being a victim to my illness and beating myself up about all the things I can’t do. It became obvious that I needed to switch my mindset to focus on what I CAN do.
Will I manage my yoga class today? No, but I CAN do some light stretching.
Will I cook dinner tonight? No, but I CAN sit down and chop up a salad.
Will I write my book today? No, but I CAN start work on a simple blog post.
When you start to shift your mindset you eventually stop noticing what you can’t do, or at least noticing as much, and you automatically focus your day on what you CAN do with very little effort, then you’re moving forward and no longer stuck.
You’ll be surprised by how much more energy you have, despite doing more.
So, what CAN you do today? Have a go at switching up your list of can’ts to cans, what do you come up with?
All of my love,
Photo Credit: Kelly Hsiao